Rookie Mistakes

Yesterday my boyfriend and I had one of those inevitable talks about our  dating "history."  Now I have some ground rules for everyone when having these talks.  One, don't be specific, especially if you're a woman (but men too, for different reasons).  Men don't need to know how many dudes you have slept with (something I think everyone has told you all the time).  The fewer (ie zero) they think about the better.   Also I would only talk about the serious relationships, not the guys you met on vacation or dated for a like a month.   My boyfriend happens to come from a country where casual dating is non-existent, so I think it may be possible he doesn't even comprehend how many people we "go through" in America/the West.

Women also need to know as few details as possible because if they know names, places (etc) they will stalk.  I didn't know this about myself until my boyfriend told me the name of his ex-girlfriend (ie the one who he thought he was going to marry/the one that broke his heart) and as soon as he was out of sight I start looking that bitch up on the internet. Yeah. 

My exboyfriend's girlfriend once tried to friend me on facebook, like a year or more after we had broken up (btw, this was not in high school, it was like last year, and I am in my 30s, so that shit never stops apprently).  I can't even tell you how much a non-threat to her I was/am. 
But now I get it.  :/

Rookie mistake #1:
DONT TELL YOUR CURRENT BOYFRIEND YOU SLEPT WITH SOMEONE YOU ARE STILL VERY GOOD FRIENDS WITH!!!

I mentioned a few posts back a friend, let's call her "Amanda", who had recently broken up with her boyfriend "Ned" (a good thing).  When they first started dating she told him she had slept with one of our very close friends "Joe" and then things were weird between Ned and Joe for pretty much the ENTIRE relationship (over three years).  The worst part is Amanda had moved to London (where Ned and Joe live) and her only friend was Joe, so now Ned made it difficult for her to see her ONLY friend.  The moral of the story is stay SHHHHHH.